tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19578699.post419167235042673923..comments2008-03-17T12:18:19.983-04:00SereneBabehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07125962568631763164noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19578699.post-71175799717300770222008-03-17T12:18:00.000-04:002008-03-17T12:18:00.000-04:00First of all Heather, you know I like you. We've talked many times in email and on the newsgroup. So with that said ...<BR/><BR/>My opinion about this issue is that while there are definitely people out there who are looking for targets, by referring to yourself as a "magnet for people hating you," as though that's a fact of life to which you've become accustomed over the years, it would appear that there's a much bigger problem involved here than merely people seeking out targets. <BR/><BR/>I, too, am a leader, a passionate, outspoken person. I, too, am a get-things-done sorta gal, and as with you I much prefer concrete achievable tasks over theories and considerations. Everyone who knows me knows that. But even though there are certainly people who dislike me, I'm not a "magnet" for people hating me ... I can't even imagine saying such a thing, let alone resolutely accepting it as though it's "their" problem.<BR/><BR/>Your post is beautifully written, but I interpret it as blindly disregarding what may actually be going on in favor of pinning the blame on others. You may very well be giving off vibes that are interpreted as pretentious, high-and-mighty, and/or dismissive toward people who don't believe as you do, and if so, that could be the trigger for why people decide they don't like you. <BR/><BR/>I urge you to spend more time looking deeper, within yourself, and spend less time deciding that people choose you as their target for no reason. There's always a reason ... we just have to care about the real truth enough to seek it out.PJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14517630087987260845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19578699.post-54614033728459971532008-03-17T12:10:00.000-04:002008-03-17T12:10:00.000-04:00I know we don't know each other very well, but reading this makes me think we might be soul-sisters. Why is it that people so envy those of us willing to know and speak our own minds? Anyway, thanks so much for sharing this! --Laureen (you know, Kevin's wife? I don't think we've seen you since just after your "Dumple" was born!)Laureenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14253951958679014265noreply@blogger.com