this is stephanie h-- i couldn't figure out how to...

2009-10-22T01:27:45.497-04:00

this is stephanie h-- i couldn't figure out how to post a comment other than as "Anonymous".

i think i know what you mean. i mean, i do know what you mean, and it makes me wonder how accurate my perception of others' understanding of me is. but the whole thing sort of goes down the rabbit hole because we're talking about my perception of your perception of me, and if we were talking about ourselves, it's my perception of your perception of my perception of myself. i've always thought of myself as a clear communicator, but now that you raise the question, i wonder a bit. and after wondering a bit, i'm still pretty sure i'm a clear communicator, but who can ever really know? there just isn't any way to see without the multiple filters of subjective perception.

as far as your friend's idea that you are seeking to be understood through communication with others, that could be the case, but i would think that through translating the what's going on in your mind using verbal skills is more about gaining self-understanding through the process of explaining it or describing to another person than it is about getting the other person to truly understand.
i just know that i do a lot of processing, and that i do it by writing and talking. this is not to say that the other person is simply a tool-- it's just that my major objective doesn't depend entirely on him or her for its achievement. and the few people who i know (or at least believe) really, truly, "get" me are so relaxing and easy and nourishing. struggling to put something in such a way that people know what i'm talking about makes me appreciate the people who get it the first time all the more.

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